20 Traits Of Relationally UNSAFE People

We've all been there a time or two, burned by bad relationships be it with a friend, co-worker, employer, family member or romantic partner. All of a sudden we wake up one day scratching our head wondering "how on earth did we get ourselves into another mess?" Too many of us good people have poured ourselves, with the best of intentions, into building bad relationships where we've ended up being abandonned, taken advantage of, or left with little or nothing to show for the devotion, time, and energy committed to a good thing gone bad. Somewhere in the midst of it all we lose sight of who we are, and for a period of time, doubt our ability to discern who is going to be a good choice for us, and who won't be. It becomes a question of, "What do I have to change to avoid falling into this trap again?" In our childhood years we are left to the perils of the school yard to learn from the meek and the bullies how to make friends, no one teaches us as children or as youth how to recognize the 20 traits of relationally unsafe people. Most of us couldn't identify two of the several personality disorders. If asked, most of us couldn't describe what a narcissit, psychopath, sociopath or what a machiavellian is, and yet, they can be a nightmare in a relationship. Most of us don't know what the cycle of abuse looks like, or the power/control wheel, and most of us incorrectly think an irresponsible partner is someone who is a poor provider or bad with finances. The 20 Traits of Relationally UNSAFE People helps to peel back the blinders revealling many of the reasons why we've made bad choices in the past and what we need to look for to avoid making those mistakes again.