Escaping the Snare of Pornography Addiction

1:18AM. You can't sleep. You leave your wife in bed, slip on your robe, and wander the house. Deep in your heart and mind, you know what you're looking for, but you deny it and tell yourself that maybe you just need a snack or maybe you'll watch a little TV. You walk by your computer, probably in some secluded place, and you stop in your tracks. Your heart begins to race. And inside your head, you are split right down the middle. A part of you is screaming "You can't do this again!" and another part is whispering "Go for it, it feels so good, and you know you will anyway." The websites you know and the images burned into your head beckon you with a strange and irresistible power. Your heart now races with anticipation of the titillating, erotic and secret pleasure right there ...and free for the taking. And then...you fall to the temptation, again.

The moment after each of these liaisons is complete, you go the same feelings and actions. Immense guilt and crushing shame gradually evolve into anger and self-hatred. In a panic of remorse, your mind gores though the usual routine. You try to repent and cry out to God, you remember that you have to start counting days again, because you've just reset your 'success clock' back to zero, and you tell yourself to seek help. But in your heart you know you won't do it. It is just too embarrassing, too shameful, and absolutely too humiliating.

I understand. I have been there. For over 20 agonizing years, I was mired in that awful swamp, that prison of temptation, that cycle of defeat, that horrible snare. I know your struggle, your shame, and your deep desire to be free from the monster that holds you captive. And I also know that eradicating this habit, this addiction, this horror from your life is no easy task. My record of loss, pain, suffering, and the extended loss, pain and suffering that I inflicted on others is a searing memory that I carry every day of my life.

I spent years trying to break free from this addiction, and was finally successful. But only after huge cost, which I would like to spare you, if at all possible. The world does not need another broken marriage, another divorce, another child living in a single parent home. And I am convinced that one of the primary causes of these disasters in our world is pornography. So I would like to offer to you the ideas, techniques, processes, and changes that I adopted and used to extricate myself from this spiral into hell called pornography addiction.

In this book I have shared my personal story, described the problem, discussed the truth, identified the enemy and the enemy’s strengths and weaknesses, proposed several strategies and tactics to escape or avoid the snare, defined love, sex, and marriage, and suggested some new attitudes and attributes to adopt in your objective to lay down your life in love for your wife. As one man who has unfortunately experienced this addiction for over two decades, I want to let you know that there is hope. This addiction can be beat. You can win the war, and escape the snare, permanently, is possible. But there is no magic bullet. There is no quick-fix, secret formula, or instant cure. But if you can believe, absorb, and implement the principles in this book, I believe that you can find lasting freedom. It is up to you.

Joe Klock