Family and Court Disorder: How to Heal the Broken Bonds

Our new book, Family and Court Disorder: How to Heal the Broken Bonds, was created to offer people real hope, true root cause and cure options, and ways to forgive ourselves as well as others around us who made us feel both love and fear at various stages.

The 5 Stages of Grief description of pain, suffering, and death is defined by these stages, or emotional phases, in order: Denial (the most common first reaction for most people), Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance. The first four stages are dark sides of fear while the final stage of acceptance moves a person closer to the side of love where we were all meant to shine.

The Seven Deadly Sins of Pride, Greed, Lust, Envy, Gluttony, Wrath, and Sloth can also be used to describe the disordered state of family court disputes worldwide that exist in the state of fear, regardless of where the courthouse is located. Fear is a cancer virus that destroys a person's health and relationship bonds with others around them. An estimated $50 to $100+ billion dollars is spent on the U.S. divorce industry each year as compared with $50 billion spent on cancer treatments.

The awarding of sole custody in divorce cases around several regions of the world now happens at least 82% of the time. Oftentimes, the mother ends up with the children. Other times, a father will end up with sole custody. Emotional splits from love to fear also split families in a battle of possession for the children as if they were a piece of furniture as opposed to separate living beings. The non-custodial parent effectively becomes a part-time visitor in their children's lives before eventually they may be almost completely erased from their children's memories and lives.

The conscious act of Hostile Aggressive Parenting traits, by a controlling parent who seeks to disconnect the loving bonds between the other parent and children, is leading to the children's subliminally programmed perceptions called Parental Alienation. Families are being torn apart and financially wiped out trying to disconnect or reconnect with one another while blaming one another in the process.

* 22 million parents have been completely erased from their children's lives as if they were ghosts.

* 26 million children have no access to one or both parents.

* More fathers in the U.S. commit suicide each day due to long term separation from their children than U.S. veterans.

* 51% of single mothers live in extreme poverty.

* America is #1 for formally diagnosed "mental disorder" traits, and #1 for overall disease rates.

* The average attention span for Americans and Canadians is near 8 seconds partly due to more intense connections in the Digital World than in the Real World.

* Fertility rates for young families are now at record lows, and more young people are fearful of loving relationships.

Family and Court Disorder was written with the intent to identify both root cause and cure options for family and legal dysfunction by exploring the following points:

The evolution of family households, demographics, money, and legal systems; how technology has both bonded and divided relationships; how to positively reprogram your mind and inspire your children to break free of their fearful childhood programming which keeps them disconnected from their family and friends; how to fight back against a system designed to disempower families; and, most importantly, how to heal ourselves, forgive, and reconnect with loved ones.

"Love casts out fear, but we have to get over the fear in order to get close enough to love them." – Dorothy Day