Missing Links
Nonfiction, Health & Well Being, Psychology, Eating Disorders, Self Help, Self Improvement
| Author: | Daniel Petra | ISBN: | 9780692225066 |
| Publisher: | Daniel Petra | Publication: | March 24, 2015 |
| Imprint: | Smashwords Edition | Language: | English |
| Author: | Daniel Petra |
| ISBN: | 9780692225066 |
| Publisher: | Daniel Petra |
| Publication: | March 24, 2015 |
| Imprint: | Smashwords Edition |
| Language: | English |
What is unique about Missing Links
Missing Links is full of very practical and surprisingly effective tools for self-transformation and behavior modification. Because most of us lead very busy lives, I show how to proceed by tiny “Baby Steps” (B/S) and in thin “salami slices” (S/S) of time. I show how to do this in all aspects of our lives … at work, at home, as we drive, as we shop, and as we play.
A FEW BASIC SECRETS
•One of the basic secrets of self-transformation is that, before we can change a self-defeating behavior, we need to learn to minimize its « gravity, intensity and frequency ».
In my experience, trying to proceed too quickly and trying to find shortcuts usually only ends up being a huge waste of time and energy. We usually have to “bottom out” before we start to make any consistent progress.
•We also need to reduce the pressure on ourselves and have more pleasure and more fun. It is easier to make progress if we allow ourselves to make a game out of what we do.
•If we want to be truly happy, we need to learn to be satisfied with everything we do.
•We also need to learn to criticize ourselves less and empower ourselves more.
•Another secret of behavior modification is that: “frequency is more effective than quantity.”
OUR CONTRACT
In Missing Links I share my process and my progress as one human being to another, not as an expert or as a professional. Over the years I have learned that, rather than criticize myself, it is essential that I congratulate myself for the “tiniest” progress that I am able to make. I have learned to congratulate myself, not only when I make progress, but also when I am able to reduce my mistakes, and any damage that I may have caused.
Rather than criticize myself, I have learned to make a contract with myself in which I agree to congratulate myself even for the teeniest improvement, no matter how small. The process of contracting is an essential one. It requires that we become aware of our tendencies and of the patterns in which we are involved. It is also essential that we learn to start to forgive ourselves. As I found out, forgiving ourselves isn’t easy. In our very competitive and perfectionistic societies, we are far more used to criticize ourselves and others, than to forgive.
There is absolutely nothing speculative in Missing Links
All the tools and the processes that I share in Missing Links have proved successful, for myself and countless others, over a period of several decades. They are natural, organic and synergistic.
Missing Links is a catalyst and it is synergistic
After reading Missing Links my readers will be able to practice much more easily and more effectively what they have been trying to learn from other books and elsewhere.
“This incredibly comprehensive book raises the most important questions of our time. If you are looking for inner growth and fulfillment, you should definitely read this book. It points out the lack of authenticity and wisdom that prevents us from living our lives to the fullest.
The author approaches critical subjects in a conversational tone and delivers what can be best described a personal development course in the form of a book or a portable workshop. This book is ideal for people who like to preserve their privacy (and their dignity) and hate having to talk to someone about their issues and shortcomings, but are serious about overcoming them.
The goal of the book is not only to achieve certain feats but also to sustain them and experience growth holistically and continually. The ultimate goal, of course, is to feel consistently satisfied with oneself and one’s life, something that so many people today are sorely lacking”.
By Katarina Nolte
Author of several books including: 100 Steps to a Lean Body.
What is unique about Missing Links
Missing Links is full of very practical and surprisingly effective tools for self-transformation and behavior modification. Because most of us lead very busy lives, I show how to proceed by tiny “Baby Steps” (B/S) and in thin “salami slices” (S/S) of time. I show how to do this in all aspects of our lives … at work, at home, as we drive, as we shop, and as we play.
A FEW BASIC SECRETS
•One of the basic secrets of self-transformation is that, before we can change a self-defeating behavior, we need to learn to minimize its « gravity, intensity and frequency ».
In my experience, trying to proceed too quickly and trying to find shortcuts usually only ends up being a huge waste of time and energy. We usually have to “bottom out” before we start to make any consistent progress.
•We also need to reduce the pressure on ourselves and have more pleasure and more fun. It is easier to make progress if we allow ourselves to make a game out of what we do.
•If we want to be truly happy, we need to learn to be satisfied with everything we do.
•We also need to learn to criticize ourselves less and empower ourselves more.
•Another secret of behavior modification is that: “frequency is more effective than quantity.”
OUR CONTRACT
In Missing Links I share my process and my progress as one human being to another, not as an expert or as a professional. Over the years I have learned that, rather than criticize myself, it is essential that I congratulate myself for the “tiniest” progress that I am able to make. I have learned to congratulate myself, not only when I make progress, but also when I am able to reduce my mistakes, and any damage that I may have caused.
Rather than criticize myself, I have learned to make a contract with myself in which I agree to congratulate myself even for the teeniest improvement, no matter how small. The process of contracting is an essential one. It requires that we become aware of our tendencies and of the patterns in which we are involved. It is also essential that we learn to start to forgive ourselves. As I found out, forgiving ourselves isn’t easy. In our very competitive and perfectionistic societies, we are far more used to criticize ourselves and others, than to forgive.
There is absolutely nothing speculative in Missing Links
All the tools and the processes that I share in Missing Links have proved successful, for myself and countless others, over a period of several decades. They are natural, organic and synergistic.
Missing Links is a catalyst and it is synergistic
After reading Missing Links my readers will be able to practice much more easily and more effectively what they have been trying to learn from other books and elsewhere.
“This incredibly comprehensive book raises the most important questions of our time. If you are looking for inner growth and fulfillment, you should definitely read this book. It points out the lack of authenticity and wisdom that prevents us from living our lives to the fullest.
The author approaches critical subjects in a conversational tone and delivers what can be best described a personal development course in the form of a book or a portable workshop. This book is ideal for people who like to preserve their privacy (and their dignity) and hate having to talk to someone about their issues and shortcomings, but are serious about overcoming them.
The goal of the book is not only to achieve certain feats but also to sustain them and experience growth holistically and continually. The ultimate goal, of course, is to feel consistently satisfied with oneself and one’s life, something that so many people today are sorely lacking”.
By Katarina Nolte
Author of several books including: 100 Steps to a Lean Body.
